Aisha/Nex Story: You’re NOT the Center of My World
One thing I didn’t like about Nabu is he was treated like the solution to all of Aisha’s problems. “Oh, Aisha, you had a rough childhood? Your first friend moved away? Your parents are too strict? You have trust issues and loner tendencies?
“Don’t worry! All you need is Wizard Fiancé Nabu, a guy who’s conveniently like you in every conceivable way! He’ll make your troubles magically disappear! Your life will be perfect!”
Now that he’s dead, the Winx fandom acts like she can only be happy again if he’s resurrected. Until that mythical day, she’s supposed to pine for him endlessly because Nabu was her life. It’s like her story became about him. He became the purpose of everything Rainbow built up about her.
(And Roy was just…there afterwards. Why did he like her in the first place? Even his biggest fan doesn’t know.)
Anyway, depending on your significant other for your happiness — especially to the point where you can’t be happy without them — is unhealthy. That’s not love. It’s obsession. The fandom’s ideal present-day Aisha needs therapy.
In my Aisha/Nex story, Nex will not be the center of her world or the sole source of her happiness. He won’t solve all her problems, and he won’t fix her flaws. The same is true for him. Aisha won’t be the only important thing in his life, and she won’t make everything better for him.
They’ll support and advise each other and help each other mature, but they’ll each have to make their own decisions and figure some things out for themselves. Becoming a couple is my goal for them, but it won’t be their goal for their lives. It’ll happen gradually as they’re trying to accomplish other things.
Their relationship will be similar to how it is in Winx Club right now: two independent people who don’t need each other to be happy, but who still love being together and don’t wanna be apart. It’ll be more romantic, of course. Unlike Rainbow, I’m not writing this story for four-year-olds. Aisha and Nex will show standard displays of affection like kissing.
I wanna portray them in a better light: not just as a couple, but also as individuals. Their personal development will be just as important as their relationship development. That means Aisha won’t act like a bargain-bin romance novel heroine whose only purpose is to be loved by the hero. She’ll still be the complex and determined character she’s meant to be (and Nex will be as well).
Yes, literally all of this, please. We stan actual character development and mental stability, as opposed to plot convenience and obsessive limerence (I hope I spelled that right).
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I agree. Aisha’s story has strayed so far from its original point since she met Nabu. After his death, it’s like everything came to halt. She’s not allowed to develop as a character anymore. Her only objective should be finding ways to bring him back. Then all her problems will be solved. ?
I’m not gonna do that to her in my story. Yes, I want her and Nex to be a couple. But I still want her to be her own person, not just Nex’s girlfriend.
is that what the fan world actually wants?
For Aisha to still be upset over Nabu’s death and look for any possible way to bring him back? Yes.
that’s messed up to be honest
It is, but they don’t care.
i’m pretty sure that Aisha would get over Nabu’s death and move on
Of course she would, and she did. She’s always been a resilient person. Unfortunately, the fandom refuses to get over him, so they don’t want her to move on. They want her to mourn him forever to justify the fact that they’re still mourning him. Instead of joining her in her current happiness, they wanna drag her back into their misery.
I still can’t get over that edit someone made for Aisha’s birthday that looked more like a twisted sympathy card. “Remember”? Why would you make something like that for her birthday?
i think that her being able to grieve and move on form a painful loss is great moment of character development
I agree, but I don’t think it matters to anyone.
yeah it matters to us but not the fanworld
I have no doubt that you will write a wonderful story and I can’t wait to read it.
Therapy for the ideal present day Aisha? Good grief. If anybody in Winx needs therapy it’s Riven. He needs enough therapy to learn to not be a sleaze for one, and two not abandon her when she starts to open up. That could really help if Rainbow tries to avert a fan-war…though I would rather Musa and Riven remained just friends.
yeah Riven definitely needs therapy and i could see Musa and Riven being friends
To be honest: I’ve been there once in my life ? I had lost a best friend, who i was in love with, we couldn’t talk for years because he was so far away. But i was so in love with him, that nothing else could make me happy or heal my brokenheart ? It was really scary time. But my other friends made realise how unhealthy it was. Now i still have a difficulty with finding my own happiness, but i am doing better ?
I’m glad that you were able to move on from that. That seems like it would be a horrible thing to go through. <3
But in the end it was all worth it because i got out of it stronger. Yeah. It was really horrible. I completely lost myself amd needed to find myself again and redefine myself. I got extremely jealous of the people who had luck in their lives, and thought why i couldn’t have it, because i thought the love of my life was my only luck. I didn’t dare to dream anymore, gave up all my goals and dreams, because i thought it could never do anything myself, without my lover. I couldn’t enjoy the little things anymore, because what he gave me was always big. But now he was gone. I literally got sort of addicted to him.
I had an experience like that in college. There was a guy I had a major crush on, and I obsessed over him every day. Worse, we were friends. He’d confide in me and tell me I was one of his true friends, which only made the pain worse.
But he liked someone else. (I was just a friend, after all.) It hurt so much that I left that particular school, but I kept “stalking” him on Facebook for a while afterwards. As time went on, I realized how ridiculous I was being. One day, I finally let go of him and I slowly started to heal.
Now looking back on it, I feel really embarrassed.
Hi! I have discovered your blog a few months ago, and altought i’m not a fan of Aisha and Nex, I like it. Since you talked about Aisha and Nabu, I’d like to ask you a question: do you think their story justifies arranged marriage in some sort of way?
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Yes and no. I think since Aisha and Nabu were both from rich, traditional families, the arranged marriage subplot made sense in that regard. After all, arranged marriages were common among the upperclass in the old days, both in Winx Club and real life.
But I don’t think it made sense for either of them to accept an arranged marriage, since Rainbow claimed that both of them were rebels. Their marriage would have made both of their stories meaningless.
One thing to realize is while the Winx fandom thinks of Nabu as a unique character, his story was actually a rehash of Aisha’s. In fact, I think Nabu was essentially a genderbent Aisha. I talked about why here: https://yinyangcouple.com/aisha-nabu-follow-up-1-theory-why-rainbow-created-nabu/.
We know Aisha wanted to choose her own guy. Rainbow used that desire as little more than a brief obstacle between her and Nabu, but it was more significant to her story than it seemed. I explained the reason why here: https://yinyangcouple.com/aisha-nabu-follow-up-2-how-nabu-nullified-aishas-story/. The short version is that Aisha has never had control over her life because she’s a princess. By accepting her arranged marriage to Nabu, she gave up the only freedom she had left.
As for Nabu, accepting the arranged marriage made even less sense for him. While Aisha’s freedom is limited by her status as princess, his freedom wasn’t. He could have left Andros and done whatever he wanted. Isn’t that what he wanted? Isn’t he the one who said, “No one makes decisions for me but me?”
Then why would he marry Aisha? By doing so, arranged marriage or not, he would have imposed a lot of restrictions on his freedom, including what his job would be and where he’d live. But because his only purpose in the story was to be Aisha’s love interest, Rainbow didn’t take that into consideration.
So ultimately, no. I don’t think Aisha and Nabu’s arranged marriage was justified, but it also wasn’t the only problem with their love story. Rainbow didn’t think about what either of them wanted or needed in their lives. They only cared about pairing her up with someone.
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